1/31/2008

Poor Kitties

It never fails to make me laugh out loud whenever Bailey spots the kitties.

First, she spots them and squeals or makes some other loud sound and claps. Then she starts to crawl towards them, smiling the entire way. She gets just a few inches from them and they jump up and run away throwing dirty looks at her over their shoulders. She plops onto her bum and looks at us as if to say, "where'd they go?" This happens a gazillion times a day.

HYSTERICAL!

The funniest part of it all is that you can just tell when she is crawling and smiling that she is trying to charm them the way that everyone else is charmed by her sweet smile.

It never works. Poor girl.

1/30/2008

Daily Joy

Life is so simple right now, in all of its complexity. I was thinking on the bus this morning that my life is very predictable. And full of all kinds of joy.

It's not very often that I recognize joy. I spent a lot of time agonizing over how things could be different (and by different, I always mean better). I find the one spot or couple of spots in my life that could be erased or changed and believe that if only those things were different, I would be a happier. It's not always the easiest way to live (for me or Kelly), but it's who I am and we work with it.

But on the bus this morning, I had an epiphany of sorts. I wasn't going to share it with anyone (including Kelly) but then I realized that this is the kind of stuff I need to write down. On those days when "everything sucks" I can look back and read this and remember...

I realize that spending time agonizing about my life is a luxury. It's reserved for those of us who get to make choices on a daily basis and who have the financial and emotional freedom to want for more. So many people just live the lives that they have to live in order to make ends meet or get through. I did that for a lot of years - I had to push myself through college on sheer will. But now, I have my degree, a good job, a stable relationship and a very healthy daughter. That alone would be enough, but I also have a beautiful home, great neighbors, two vehicles that run without problems, and the ability to give our daughter nice "things" that enhance her life and her development.

All of that would be perfect for many.

But I also have a relationship that has survived the test of time and so many things that could have torn us apart. I have the ability to be as healthy as I chose to be. I have a daughter who is as wonderfully smart and funny and beautiful as she is healthy. I have friends that would do anything for me. I have the freedom at work to develop and grow and push my professional development wherever I want to take it. I have a boss who is supportive of my life outside of work and a company that provides benefits that makes it easy to enjoy that life. I have a family who loves me unconditionally and beautiful places that we can take our daughter.

Most importantly, and truly at the core of all of this, I have myself and my ability to be me in this world. I am not inhibited by anything. I have a life partner, who is not just my wife in name, but in all aspects.

I am a lucky woman. I need to remember this. I don't know why I spend so much energy being a drama queen. I guess that is part of me and I will accept it. But I will also force myself to look away from my internal drama sometimes and just appreciate all that I have and all that I am grateful for.

1/28/2008

Should Be Working...

I really shouldn't be taking the time to post, but I just have to share two very exciting developments in our little girl's life.

First, she walked this weekend for the first time. We are counting these as her first steps, even though she was using a walking toy at the time. They were her own, they were deliberate and they happened unassisted by us. Let me tell you the story.

We purchased this nifty little toy for Christmas that is a walker. It's on wheels and she can hold on to it and push it along while she is standing. It can also be converted to a little tricycle of sorts. Something she can sit on and push herself along. We've been keeping it propped against a wall, thinking that when she pulled herself up on it, she would face plant on the floor when it started to roll away (the wheels don't lock).

Well, on Saturday afternoon, she pulled it away from the wall. I was playing with her on the floor and figured, what the hell. I stood her up behind it and then let go of the toy so that it would start to move foward. Like a champion, she just took off!!!! She pushed it along for about 6 steps before it got going too fast and she fell. We grabbed the camera and got her next round (the video is below). In that video, I'm helping her some...but the first time was all her!!! Walking is so close and we can't wait!!!!

The other development this weekend wasn't so pleasant for her and was our first taste of what a really pissed off little girl sounds like in public.

Kelly and I decided on Sunday that we needed to buy Bailey a real stroller. We have a one that was given to us that is very nice, but it sits pretty low to the ground. Our little busy-body likes to see the world around her and interact with it, so she hasn't really taken to that stroller. Also, up until now, we've just put her in the front carrier. We like to have her close to us and we believe that she learns more when she's near us and listening to our conversations about what is around us. It's worked beautifully. And it still does. Except that now she is almost 23 pounds (this is an estimate) and she's damn heavy. She's also seriously interactive. The difference between a baby just hanging out on your chest and looking around and a baby who is waving and turning to look and playing and clapping and cheering and talking to everyond around her is HUGE! It absolutely hurts to carry her these days.

So we bought a stroller. A nice one. In fact, it's the same one that our good friends M & S use for thier little boy (quite successfully I might add!!!!).

So, off we troop to the mall (Bailey's favorite place in the world). We get there, we carry her in, we flip out our handy stroller, we put her in it and she looks at us with a look of complete disgust. Utter, total disgust.

She humored us for a few minutes. She sat there, craning around trying to find us behind her. She wimpered. She threw her arms out to be picked up. She cried. She thrust around.

Then, she seemed to get the clue that we were not going to rescue her. That we were going to leave her in the stroller-of-hell and continue on through the mall.

So, she proceeded to scream at the top of her lungs, complete with full body thrashing and huge crocodile tears. Boogers came streaming out her nose. When I went to wipe them, she calmed for about 2 seconds until she realized that I was going to wipe her nose and not take her. Then the real fit started.

Lordy, Kelly and I were embarrased!!! She was ridiculously loud!!! And the mall is a loud place to start. She drowned everyone out with her hysterics. People walked by and gave us THAT look. The look that said "why the hell aren't you comforting her".

We learned long ago that breaking Bailey is a battle of the wills and we were determined to win. So we continued our walk. We did a lap of the mall upstairs and a lap downstairs. We tried to pretend like it wasn't happening. We tried.

Finally, I broke. I couldn't take it anymore. I picked her up. Problem was at that point she was mad. And wanted to keep throwing her fit. I couldn't hold her safely because she was beating on me. So, I put her back in the chair. And the fit reached new heights.

At this point, I just started laughing. I know that is horrible, but it was funny. I mean, honestly! It's just a stroller!!!!! And she was so freakin' mad at us!!!

We hightailed it out of the mall at that point. We made it a half hour.

The best part is that once we were in the car and she calmed down (which happened as soon as the stroller was out of sight), I commented to Bailey "So, B Bear...you didn't like the stroller, huh?" And from the silent back seat, the girl GROWLED AT ME!!! She actually growled at me. LOL!!!! Dear God, it was hysterical!

Even funnier...Bailey won. Kelly and I are going to wait a couple of months to transition her out of the carrier.

*sigh*

Dancing Girl

She LOVES to dance!

Two New Videos...More To Come Later!

Eating Peas...and LOVIN' it!



Her First Deliberate Steps...

1/25/2008

Dancing and Her First Steps

It's been a while since I've posted about our B. She's doing really well. She goes through spurts of growth and development and then she just seems to stall out. Recently she's been a little stalled, but still moving forward.

The newest thing in B's life is music and dancing. Now, I guess we shouldn't be surprised - after all I posted about listening to bumpin' music while pregnant and how it would get rid of my morning sickness like nothing out. And she rocked while in utero. Literally - rocked back and forth.

Well, now, she outright dances. Her Mommy is really who started it. We have a CD player in the kitchen and at night, we put on kids music for her. We sing and play while she eating and I'm doing the dishes or making dinner. On the days that she is home with her Mommy, they started this ritual of standing in front of the radio and dancing around. Bailey throws her hand out and bounces up and down while waving her hands. We think it's really cute, so we've encouraged it. And not, it's taken off. She has these two Einstein music boxes that play full songs or just the individual instruments. She's learned how to get them started and then she'll sit back and sway side to side while waving her hands in the air. She actually gets a little hip twist going, so she's kind of bouncing all around. She'll do the same thing when she's standing up. While holding on to something to balance herself, she'll throw one hand out and then bounce her knees while throwing her hips back and forth. At some point we'll ge this on video. The problem is that she stops as soon as we bring the camera out.

We think our dancing girl is adorable!!!

We also think that she took her first steps. Now, I have to clarify and say that we are 100% certain that they were accidental and not in any way intended...so they don't count as the REAL first steps. However, she was holding on to the ottoman and wanted to be in my arms. I was sitting just out of reach so I put my arms out to encourage her into them. I was thinking she would just cruise along the ottoman until she got to where I could reach her. Instead, she took her hands off the ottoman and stood there shaky for a minute. As she started to fall forward, she "caught" herself by moving her feet forward. She took two steps and then fell into my arms!!!!

It was very, very exciting...even if it was accidental!

Other Bailey stuff - she's still sleeping through the night - about 12 hours at a stretch. At daycare she has started refusing her naps, so when we get there at 4 PM, she's one tired girl. She usually takes an hour nap or so and then gets up for another hour and half. Then it's bedtime, where she sleeps until morning. Some people seem amazed that she sleeps through the night...until I point out that she doesn't nap during the day. Or at least, not much. She needs the night time sleep!!!!

Her diet these days consists of formula, lots and lots of all different veggies, fruits (her favorites are blueberries and whole bananas), beans, ravioli, cherries, graham crackers and those little puffs. She loves, loves, loves to drink soy milk and she does it out of her sippy cup every night at dinner. She loves her soy milk!

Other than that, things are just status quo. We are all doing pretty well. Things are 100% busy all the time, but that is to be expected. This weekend, I'm going to a farewell party on Saturday evening for my coworker. It's at my bosses house. We were going to make it a date, but Kelly isn't feeling real comfortable with leaving Bailey...so she's going to stay at home with her while I go out. It'll be nice to get out for a while.

Here are the latest pictures of our little love!








Happy Birthday, Momma!

My beautiful Momma is 49 years old today! Happy Birthday, Momma!!!

1/23/2008

Rodney

Today, my brother would have been 31 years old. I miss him every day of my life and wish that he were around to meet Bailey. They would have loved each other.

Rodney - you're in my heart every day and I will always love you. You live on through us...and we live better because of you. Take care of yourself until we meet again.

1/20/2008

Mellow

This weekend has been mellow so far. Bailey has been in a pretty good mood. For a while, she was a little rough...but it turns out she was just tired. I popped her into the car to run an errand and she fell sound asleep. That was two hours ago. She's still sleeping.

God bless her for giving us a few hours to get stuff done.

Tomorrow is Monday and we both have the day off. Our daycare is still open and we are going to take Bailey in for a few hours in the morning. Kelly and I are going to spend time together...without the baby...for the first time since she was born!!!!!!

We can't have date nights...but we're gonna have a date day! I can't wait...

Not much new on the development front. B is really just doing her thing. Every day she comes up with new sounds, new ways to communicate. She is a crawling-master now and stands pretty much on her own. She is most comfortable, of course, if she is holding a finger...but she can stand for as long as 10 seconds without falling. She'll be walking soon.

Oops...I think I hear her! I'm gonna take her to the mall so that my love can watch the football games in peace!

1/17/2008

Lost In The Dreary

I'm lost in the dreary parts of my life right now. Bailey is at home today with the vomits. I can only call it that, because she's fine in all other aspects...except every time something goes into her mouth, it comes back out about 15 minutes later.

Gross.

Last night, she had a massive vomit explosion and we were cleaning it up and giving her a bath at 2AM. No fun. Except, it was kind of funny. She looked at me like, "what the hell, Momma???". I laughed at her. She was just happy to get the caked on vomit out of her hair.

Have I mentioned how gross formula vomit smells?

I'm kind of bluesy the last couple of days. I think it's just my period which is due to start in about a week. PMS cycles for me and this looks like an especially bad round. Work is overwhelming. Kelly is working just as hard as me, so we both come home exhausted and without much energy. At night we fall into bed and hold hands and talk, all the while knowing how tired we'll be when the alarm goes off. I don't think either of us cares, though. Sometimes, you've just got to lay with your love and drift away in conversation.

It's sleeting and raining outside. It snowed for a while. Bailey laughed when I took her out in it, but then it started to land on her eyelashes and she blinked a lot. It was really funny. The snow is now melting away with the rain and it looks cold and gray outside.

I can't wait for Kelly to get home. I need a hug. I love hugging her. I love the way that she smells. So very...Kelly. It smells like home to me.

I'm done rambling for today. Hopefully Bailey is feeling better tomorrow and I can get to work. I have too much to do for it to pile up...

1/14/2008

Treadmill Time

This morning, I kicked off my New Year's resolution to lose 130 pounds in the next two years. Kelly and I are not going to diet - just be sensible. And I need to start exercising. I'm really quite strong and very lucky that weighing a little over 250 pounds hasn't stopped me from doing the things that I want to do. I can still be active with Bailey, my body healed remarkably quickly after a very, very difficult c-section, and I recovered from a rough pregnancy like a champion (I lost all my baby weight with her delivery plus five pounds.)

Now, it's time to actually focus and pull some weight off. My goal for now is simple - I want to weigh 225 pounds. That's 30 pounds to lose. I got on the treadmill this morning for 20 minutes. I know that it's not long, but it's better than going for longer and getting discouraged. I'll do 20 minutes this week and then 23 next week and then 26 the week after that. You get the picture. Slow and steady.

Here are some recent pictures of Bailey. She's doing so well - developing faster than we can keep up with her. Every day it's a new sound or a new motion or a new action. It's only a matter of time before the sounds coming out of her mouth are formed into actual words.

ACTUALLY - on that front - we think she's actually said "Mama" in relation to us. The other night, when she was ready to get out of her bath, she put her arms in the air and stared right at me and said "Mama", "Mama" while trying to stand up and get into my arms. Now, with that said, I don't think that she can differentiate between Kelly and I...but I do think that she identifies us with the word.

Time will tell.

Anyway - here are the pictures. She loves her blueberries...







1/09/2008

Busy, busy, busy

The funny thing about having a blog is that when I don't post, I feel guilty. Honest-to-goodness guilt. As if you are all just sitting out there, waiting to go about your lives, while I do other things.

I laughed at myself this morning about this.

Anyway. Kelly and I are super, super busy right now. Between us, we are working nearly constantly - both of us working on our mornings home with Bailey and last night Kelly brought work home. We are both charting new territory at work, so the work is doublely difficult (we are inventing the wheel).

Meanwhile, Bailey is doing her thing. She is such a joy these days. We are so very much enjoying her. She's funny, sweet, responsive and engaged. The few temper tantrums that started to pop up, have subsided. She's demanding when she wants something and has figured out that her very loud voice can carry. We ignore her when she's like this. She's catching on.

Perhaps the sweetest thing right now is that she has figured out that she can make us laugh, and then our laughter makes her laugh...and then her laughing makes us laugh again! It's a wonderful cycle that turns into a gigglefest nightly. Another cute thing right now is that she loves to see Kelly and I kiss and hug one another. She watches us intently and when we kiss, she smiles and claps and sometimes giggles. It's seriously cute!!!

There is more going on, but I don't have time to write about it now. I have some work to finish up and B will wake up in the next hour or so.

Lordy - this is one hell of a life, isn't it??

1/07/2008

Pinto Beans and Peas

So, what do you feed an 8 month old who won't eat anything that she can't pick up in her pincher grasp? If it comes on a spoon, a fork or from her fist, it's a non-starter. She'll just flat refuse to open her mouth. Not gonna do it...

Miss Independent is now eating pinto beans, black beans, peas, fresh fruit, freeze-dried fruit, puffs, and cheerios. This week she will try tofu, frozen blueberries, frozen mixed veggies (cooked of course) and maybe some other stuff.

Good lord. The girl is so independent!!!!

1/02/2008

New Year

Well, the holidays are over and it's back to the usual grind. I love and hate this time of year in equal proportions.

I love taking down the holiday decorations and reclaiming our house. I love the start of a new year and all that promise that the new year holds. I love that it is winter and it finally starts to get actually cold in this part of the world. I love that the stores have something other than commercialized Christmas (which I absolutely love during December). I love playing with the new things that I got on Christmas day.

But, I hate getting back to work. It's nearly impossible to focus!!! I've spent the last month working on and off and really just doing what I wanted. I've left early, I've spent a lot more time with my loves. Now, it's back and everything is coming due and I'm busy and more than anything, I just want to go home!!!!!

Enough bitching.

This year is gonna be good. Kelly and I have big plans for ourselves and we intend to just enjoy what our life brings us. Bailey is our joy and this year is going to be so much fun as she learns to walk and starts to talk. Her first birthday is something we are eagerly anticipating and our first camping trip in the spring.

I think this year may be the best one ever...

1/01/2008

More Bailey Videos

Super, Super Cute Video (in her room that has been prepared for our little crawler!)



Bailey Playing in her Room



Bailey Close Up!


Christmas Day Videos

Christmas Day Fun 1



Christmas Day Fun 2



Christmas Day Fun 3



Playing With All Her New Toys...It's All So Overwhelming!!!